There are a million reasons why I don’t feel like I can do a good job posting tonight. First and foremost is Sarah’s post from last night. Read it. Or go back and read it again. I think it’s the beginning of something. A discussion maybe. Or a thread. Because I used to date women, too. And even though my experiences were very different, I completely understand what she’s saying. I completely agree that relationships with women after motherhood are dramatically changed. Forever changed. And I know that I will have more to say about this. But for now, I am nursing a migraine. And my brain is muddled. And, like Goldfish, I just can’t give this my full attention right now. So I’m counting on you readers to do that for me. Tell us about how your friendships have changed since you became a mom. Or since your friends have. Tell us if we’re on to something here, because I think we are. Because this is what I know to be true: Sarah and I are the best of friends now because we see ourselves in each other. And there’s just no one else I can say that about right now.
Friends, lovers. Oh Mother.
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Been in Migraine Hell myself this week. Feel better.
Not sure what to say about the girls as lovers thread. Must think. Which is hard.
I commented after Sarah’s post…but really, I have been giving some SERIOUS thought lately to my friendships and your posts come at a good time. I don’t believe in coincidences…
Motherhod has isolated me from extraneous friendships… you know, the idle-chit-chat kinds. Because my heart and my mind don’t do “idle” anymore (even though maybe they should). But my deepest friendships are even deeper now. And my sister? Is almost like a part of me now. I could not do this without my sister. But still, I must give this more. I still can’t quite get my head around it. But you are right: there is something here.