Comments on: Frazzlement

By: Liz

Liz — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 09:46:45 +0000

Ok, I KNOW you DO KNOW that we are ALL frazzled…at the very least, on most days.

By: Shawna

Shawna — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 02:30:24 +0000

me too. just as crispy. barely getting through the sleep deprivation that is the fallout of being a mom and a shift worker. the feeling of alone. so alone that sometimes i feel like i would feel less alone without five other people here. it sucks. but sometimes it doesn’t and for now i’m hanging onto that.

loved Rachel’s comment. (mean Shawna) and (oh poor Shawna) live in my house far too often! Virtual hugs, wishing you betterness soon!!!

By: nic @mybottlesup

nic @mybottlesup — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 16:50:45 +0000

fried, crisp… dude, i’m fuckin burnt and crumbling. i hear ya sistafriend. i hear ya loud and clear and you’re not alone.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 15:55:55 +0000

Hi Sarah,

It sounds like ‘mean Sarah’ is out and about. I have ‘oh, poor Rachel’ and ‘mean Rachel’ and they’re no fun to live with. I know I’m a bid off to name these phases but it helps. Keeps me from completely succumbing. See, when I’m in those places in my mind where I’m either beating myself up (mean Rachel) or lost in some despair (oh poor Rachel) I’ve found that talking to my sister (we have that in common) and getting perspective, no matter how hard, is really important. It is like Annie Lamotte’s quote ” My mind is like a bad neighborhood. I won’t go there alone.”
I believe the learning curve for this mindset you’re in is incredibly steep. Crazy steep. We’re all completely flawed. We just have to continually evaluate the day, moment, year, second and find our strengths to build them and weaknesses to support. You are doing this. Even if it seems like you’re frozen. Even if it is only armchair philosophizing, it is something. You’re experiencing growing pains I think. I still am. Look at your love and your strength and call Jen:)

Rachel

By: igmom

igmom — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 15:23:40 +0000

I know saying you’re doing a great job probably won’t help. You’ve got 3 kids. I have a hard enough time with just one who is going through the beginnings of terrible 2′s at 18 months. I’ve got a husband who really doesn’t understand and gets frazzled when watching our daughter by himself. I’m trying to go to gradschool (one class at a time), but wonder why am I doing this.

I feel like a complete failure at work. I try hard, but someone who I thought was my friend has gotten snippy and cold. I’ve got no clue what is going on. I constantly feel like I do not do things right. Getting through the day is a plus in my book. Though, don’t come over my house unannounced. It’s a disaster.

I wish I felt like I cold get one thing accomplished correctly. I feel like no matter how hard I try it backfires. For me lately it seems like I don’t know why I bother trying.

So I’d like to join the crispy, fried club too. I look at you taking your whole family to the pool, despite the error of when it opens at a huge accomplishment. It sounds like your kids had fun, and that’s what is important. Maybe your DH could watch the kids for an afternoon and you could go for a massage or get your nails done. Just do something for you.

It might make you feel better. I’m sorry to rant. Like you tweeted, you can’t put it on twitter or FB. You never know who will read it.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 07:48:07 +0000

Crisp over here too. Maybe if I could sleep for a week straight, I’d have the energy to figure out a system to not be so frazzled and fried all the time. Yeah, good luck with that, me.

By: mummyof5monsters

mummyof5monsters — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 06:56:23 +0000

i could have written this:) I guess we all have these moments xxxxx