Comments on: Looking beyond the look(s)

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 22:13:57 +0000

Hi. My name is Heather.

Thank you.

It’s been awhile since I’ve re-introduced myself.

To myself.

By: Jeni

Jeni — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 00:44:56 +0000

Well, I loved this post. Thank you Princess Prose for sending me your way. I can’t wait to hear more.

I have had a major issue with the word tolerance myself. You see, I am a Unitarian Universalist with e pagan tendencies, I also have green highlights in my hair, don’t wear a bra, and have a tendency to be a I little different than the rest of the people I meet here in the bible belt. Oh, and I named my daughter Jezabelle, that also went over real well.

For me, tolerance is better than out and out rudeness, but what I really want is to be accepted, just as I am. I really would love to be accepted by everyone, the way that I accept the people I meet, even the ones who are completely intolerant of me. Some of those people who are only recently becoming somewhat tolerant of me are my in-laws. It really hurts me that they can’t accept me. I accept and love them regardless of the fact that they don’t reciprocate it, and that their views on pretty much everything are exactly the opposite of mine. I jsut wish they would do the same for me.

By: Ashleigh Burroughs

Ashleigh Burroughs — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 22:44:27 +0000

I thought the “meta-status” of being pregnant (you know, where you are no longer a wife or a supervisor or a lawyer or wearing a nice outfit… you are just PREGNANT) would end at his birth and I would go back to being myself again. Nope, I just morphed into MOM. It’s hard to be judgemental when you have no idea who you are………

By: schmutzie

schmutzie — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 18:20:46 +0000

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By: Follow Friday: Good Readin’ Edition

Follow Friday: Good Readin’ Edition — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 14:50:18 +0000

[...] MomalomJen wrote an amazing post about throwing aside tolerance and skipping ahead to acceptance “Looking beyond the look(s)“ [...]

By: nic @mybottlesup

nic @mybottlesup — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 19:18:57 +0000

FANTASTIC POST!!!

By: rachel-asouthernfairytale

rachel-asouthernfairytale — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 05:09:00 +0000

This is wonderfully written and SO true. Loved it.

By: Shawna

Shawna — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 01:45:56 +0000

I, too, have learned to reserve judgement. I was in some ways lucky to have had my kids youngish. I didn’t have much chance to form too much opinion about parenting before kids. Now, I am just plain too tired to judge (most of the time). And I know that there are others out there who are just as tired and lonely and desperate as me. So yep, I’m much quicker to reach out than ever before.

My sister waited until her thirties were well established before she had a baby. Her opinions about parenting were strong and definite and she was constantly snarking about some parent or another. Her tune has changed in the last ten months. Motherhood has worn her out too. I am so glad she joined us ;)

By: Liz

Liz — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 00:05:14 +0000

Awesome post, as always. BTW, I am one of those moms who often (not always!) spends the few minutes to apply the makeup (maybe not the pancake type, but definitely some glitzy eye liner)…it’s because I have found that, for me, taking that time to make myself feel more like ME makes me happier and calmer as a mom than sitting for 5 minutes! The truth is, that’s what your post is about, I guess…accepting each other and promoting whatever we have to do to get through this motherhood stuff with a sense of self and sense of sanity!

By: Trenches of Mommyhood

Trenches of Mommyhood — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 16:10:42 +0000

So, so true Jen! I think my natural instinct is to be kinda bitchy towards other women, but since having the boyz, I have softened up and reach out much more often to other moms. It’s definitely straying out of my comfort zone though.

I wanted to see if you and Sarah would like to join me on Pepperidge Farms Fishful Thinking campaign. It’s a great program promoting positive parenting and if your kids eat goldfish – even better!
Email me for more info at sarahviz(at)yahoo(dot)com!