Comments on: Lip Service

By: For my ever-handsome boy - Momalom

For my ever-handsome boy - Momalom — Sun, 17 Oct 2010 19:18:38 +0000

[...] Exactly the parts of our experiences that make us stronger. How many people have heard the story of my reconstructed lips. Of my father’s death. Of the difficult [...]

By: 101 Things About Jen, by Jen - Momalom

101 Things About Jen, by Jen - Momalom — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 01:16:33 +0000

[...] and have the same shoe size 8. But we only weighed the same at the end of my last pregnancy 9. My lips are not my real lips 10. I failed my first driving test 11. When I last saw my dad he was wearing a kelly green polo [...]

By: Now’s Your Chance to Love it Up — Momalom

Now’s Your Chance to Love it Up — Momalom — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 21:01:39 +0000

[...] the letter (but we hope you do). Just spend some time writing about love. Your love. Maybe you will create a memory. Or add to someone else’s future treasure [...]

By: Heather of the EO

Heather of the EO — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 03:17:57 +0000

It’s so true. What will they remember, we just can’t know. And we really only can do our best and apologize when we don’t. I’m hoping right with you that mine will look back and somehow say thank you, one day. I don’t know exactly why, but this post just made me WELL UP with love for my boys, for our being in it together. I needed that.

By: Gale

Gale — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 16:52:13 +0000

Like BLW, I am awed at your sense of calm around this memory as you recall it today. The resiliency of children is something I will never fully understand.

On a more general level, I’ve talked with my own mother about this very topic many times. She is frequently surprised at the things that stand out in my memories. There were certain things she went to great lengths to make memorable – some stuck and some didn’t. But there are other key moments from my youth – some traumatic and others quite ordinary – that are equally vivid. As parents we just don’t know which events will endure and which will fade, which can be both a frightening and bolstering proposition.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 12:07:35 +0000

Oh, I’m glad you finally got the damn t-shirt. I’m an idiot slacker and you kick ass and deserve much more…

Sarah

By: Corinne

Corinne — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:49:47 +0000

I have tears in my eyes reading this. I just can’t imagine, how scary for all involved. We have yet (knock on wood…) to go through anything like that with our kids, but I’m sure with their daredevil antics something will happen. And those will be the quirky things they remember. And we have no control over it. That’s the hard part to realize as a parent, you don’t have control of everything… thanks for the reminder ;)

By: Natalie

Natalie — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:08:51 +0000

Thank you for this.

By: terry

terry — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 23:47:42 +0000

WOW! Your post was astonishingly powerful. I am looking at it through the lens of an older Mom with older kids. I remember the importance of creating family traditions. I was so worried we wouldn’t have any tradition. I felt like Tevia from Fiddler on the Roof! TRADITION! And guess what? They love the fondue Chinoise we make as we decorate the Christmas tree the first Friday after Thanksgiving. We do our pilgrimage to the same Christmas tree farm and cut our tree down, too. For years I thought all this was for naught. But this year my eldest asked his girlfriend to join us. He wanted to share our traditions with her. As for memories, it’s strange which ones stick. Mostly now the kids remember the crazy things I have done and they conspire against me. I love this in only a way a Mom can.

By: TheKitchenWitch

TheKitchenWitch — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 22:58:48 +0000

Owwwwww! I remember the tonsillectomy Christmas from Hades with Miss D. 4 ER visits in a span of 6 days. Harrowing! I’d love to hear what Sarah and Geege-a-licious remember.

ps: Got my awesome Momalom t-shirt on! Thanks!