They used to be much bigger.
Write novel. Have baby (or three).
Now, to do dishes after dinner
I feel achievement unlike any other.
I want to strive for more.
June 25, 2010
Goals.
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Ideals certainly do change, don’t they? but how much more we appreciate it when we GO for our dreams. I don’t know that it would mean as much before as it does now. Especially when you find time, before and after the dishes, to accomplish it!
I think the question really is: Is it that we ignore our goals after children, or is it that our children make us rethink our goals (at least for the time being?).
It takes everything in me to keep up with the kitchen – unloading, loading, washing, putting away…Yesterday, while folding laundry, I happened upon the movie Coyote Ugly…many years ago I had a week of my life where I wanted to be a Coyote…one of those things in life that you would love to try even though it is TOTALLY not you. I sat there folding laundry with tears in my eyes realizing how much has changed from that little time in my life…it is good to keep having goals that inspire us beyond the kitchen counter. But also how awesome how much I have grown and become since that week of Coyote dreams.
Who cares what the goals are as long as we have some?
This resonates a little too deeply with me… Goals, dreams, they matter!
What made the second child easier?
Knowing that everything else would wait
(Everything: goals, movie theaters, peeing alone)
until she wasn’t a baby anymore.
HA! Well you know that I am rocking the dishes! ; )
What I find funny is that my dreams have grown bigger since having children. Remember your post about motherhood making you braver? That is how I feel; it has not only made me more courageous, but has encouraged me to seek goals I would otherwise have ignored.
Here comes some philosophical BS, cause that’s the mood I’m in today!
Who cares about goals? Yeah, yeah – I know they’re good for us and help us feel productive. But isn’t it really just about living today in the best way we know how? Just appreciating the simple life, embracing the joy that is around us, and doing the best we can to raise our kids today. Tomorrow will come in its own time, but right now we are in the heart of today.
I find it’s scarier to dream big after having kids… or more daunting maybe? Not sure.
But love this.
Oh yeah, I’m with ya. These days, the goals are just about the basics! Though I do have high hopes for more, someday.
Perhaps you’re doing some small picture thinking (the dishes) as the big picture unfolds on its own. That’s how I prefer to think of it, anyway.
Good things, always in smallest moments.
Some days big goals discourage me
So little gets done at once
But mostly I’m glad they’re there
Simmering in the background, awaiting progress…
I understand, my friend. I understand.
You can and you will, but don’t ever lose triumph by dishes or bathing ;)
It;s so easy, too easy, to get wrapped up in our children’s dreams… we lose sight of our own. I do the same. I try not to.
Nell Taliercio
@nelltaliercio
Oh, I know this feeling, Jen. Sometimes I get so scared by the way time passes and my goals just pass on by. I hope to do the dishes and achieve the bigger things, little by little.
Those goals are nonetheless important. Those goals are what makes a house a home. That is supposedly the American dream, right? However, my selfish side misses those loftier goals. Oh yes, yes it does.
In a sense I have accomplished much more. I think society has a way of butting in. Social guilt over what we could be doing. I’m happy though. I agree with you Jen. Striving for more will only benefit my family.
More will come. Believe me. Whether you strive for it or not.
And most of it is good stuff. And even some for you.
Yeah. If I lower the bar any further, I’ll bury it.
this is my absolute most favorite reply
Living in the moment and trying to keep up – that’s my constant state of being!